“For
the first time since the Vedic age one of the central pillars of the Indian
society and culture – marriage – is undergoing drastic change as you adults
increasing choose to marry on their own terms, not settling for marriages that
their families have arranged for them.” ~~
Ira Trivedi (Book: India In Love)
“Many
young Indians from the urban middle class are beginning to believe that love
and sex are the only things that matter in relationships, particularly
marriage. This unprecedented change in thinking has probably lead to more
fulfilling relationships than those of the past, but it has also led to
multiple crisis in our society.” ~~
Ira Trivedi (Book: India In Love)
“Even
today, the darkest and most excessive form of sexual perversion and violence
could be said to be the manifestation of a society that has been sexually
repressed for decades.” ~~
Ira Trivedi (Book: India In Love)
“We
are never going back to the India of our past. The sexual revolution has begun,
it is gaining pace and nothing can stop it.” ~~ Ira Trivedi (Book: India In
Love)
“Indian
men may have several ‘issues,’ but a woman with an ‘issue’ is a serious issue.”
~~ Ira Trivedi
(Book: India In Love)
“Marriage
is not as economically viable as it once used to be. Changes in tastes,
technology and institutional and legal environments have decreased gains from
marriage.” ~~
Ira Trivedi (Book: India In Love)
“The
dreams of the Indian woman are piercing through the walls of the kitchen and
the living room, leaving behind rubble, glass and other debris.” ~~ Ira Trivedi (Book: India In
Love)
“It
is ironic that a country like India that has recorded, celebrated and presented
love in such a variety of forms shuns the concept of romantic love in modern
times.” ~~
Ira Trivedi (Book: India In Love)
“In
a country with deep-seated traditions of patriarchy, casteism, and family
honor, falling in love across caste and community lines is difficult and
sometimes even life threatening.” ~~
Ira Trivedi (Book: India In Love)
“Despite
the menacing odds, love and longing in the small towns of India is increasing
like never before. Young men and women are braving centuries of social
resistance and daring to fall in love across caste lines.” ~~ Ira Trivedi (Book: India In
Love)
“Anonymity
also increases with the help of technology. Gone are the days of trunk calls
and surreptitious love letters. Cell phones have greatly increases the ability
of the individual to control his/her fate and be freed from societal
restraints.” ~~
Ira Trivedi (Book: India In Love)
“Sex
talks of any kind usually get flak from some sections of society. Elsewhere in
the world, it is always on religious grounds whereas in India it is on
“cultural” grounds. Ironically, all this talk issues come forth from the same
culture that gave the world the Kama sutra and whose myths have celebrated
sexuality over millennia.” ~~
Ira Trivedi (Book: India In Love)
“Abstinence
focused sexual education doesn’t change teenage and adolescent sexual behavior,
nor does it delays the age of initiation of sexual activity.” ~~ Ira Trivedi (Book: India In
Love)
“Indian
society like many societies the world over, is patrilineal, patriarchal, and
patrilocal.” ~~
Ira Trivedi (Book: India In Love)
“Employment
plays a pivotal role in shaping gender identities and gender relations. The
employment status of a woman’s partner affects her risk of spousal violence.” ~~ Ira Trivedi (Book: India In
Love)
“As
is well known, women in Indian society are enshrined in religion or spirituality;
there they are objectified as goddesses but they are otherwise never seen as
harbingers of good luck or necessary to uphold a family’s fortunes. Sons on the
other hand are necessary to kindle the funeral pyre of their late parents and
to assist in the onward journey of the soul.” ~~ Ira Trivedi (Book: India In
Love)
“The
most apparent reason for the higher divorce rate is the financial independence
of Indian women, which allows them to step out of unhappy marriages.” ~~ Ira Trivedi (Book: India In
Love)
“Perhaps
the biggest blow to patriarchal society is when a woman makes sexual choice for
herself, not just choosing her own partner, but also the gender of that
partner.” ~~
Ira Trivedi (Book: India In Love)
“Homosexuality
in India is accepted as long as it does not interfere with reproduction and the
family process. Sex and marriage seem to be disconnected – so as long as the
son marries and has children, he can do whatever he wants in the bedroom. As
long as homosexuality is “masti” or fun, it is okay, but the minute it becomes
an identity then it becomes a problem.” ~~
Ira Trivedi (Book: India In Love)
“Prostitution
may have taken on a new look, but it remains a primeval game. Though, a new
form of prostitution is brewing where sex work took place in five-star hotels
instead of brothels and girls solicited in night clubs instead of on the
streets, the mentality, the economics, the desperation, the addiction and the
darkness too were as old as desire.” ~~
Ira Trivedi (Book: India In Love)
“India
has the chance of overcome her past prejudices and recognize sexual and marital
freedom as a fundamental human right. we may never again be a society devoted
to sexual practice as we once were, but we are on our way – however slowly and
treacherously – to greater sexual openness, tolerance and freedom.” ~~ Ira Trivedi (Book: India In
Love)
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